Not Feeling “Yourself,” Lately?
Have you ever had a sense of doom, fear, anxiety or other unpleasant emotions for seemingly no reason? Do you ever have feelings that just come over you out of the blue? It’s possible that you have a forgotten experience that has been triggered by a recent event. There may be a good reason for those feelings that is hidden in your past…or maybe not.
Emotions are energetic patterns. I don’t mean this in the abstract, but literally. Emotions can be strong energetic patterns that are so dense and structured that they can maintain their form as they transfer from one person to another. This can be a wonderful experience when you are in love. It can be a valuable experience if you are a therapist. It can be an unpleasant or even dangerous experience if you receive a bad emotional pattern and you can’t shake it.
I encourage everyone to be responsible for their own emotions and not to lay blame on others for their own feelings, but sometimes those feelings are not actually yours. They are transplants!
It can be very liberating to finally get rid of them.
Michael
I hav alot of these feelings but its been after two deaths in my family this year and also my mom and dad divorcing i been feelin way out of ordinary.what shoul i do
Comment by chris stanley — November 25, 2009 @ 7:29 pm
It’s normal for you to feel out of the ordinary considering your difficult circumstances. You have a lot to deal with right now. My work may be able to help you in certain ways, but traditional therapy or counseling may be the best place to start.
I hope you start feeling better soon. You are always welcome here.
Best Regards,
Michael
http://www.MichaelRoland.com
Comment by admin — December 14, 2009 @ 5:35 am
Hi Chris,
I agree with Michael that your emotional responses to these major life events are normal. My guess is that you hurt BECAUSE YOU LOVED those family members who passed and BECAUSE YOU LOVE AND CARE ABOUT your parents who are divorcing. Remember that we grieve because we first loved and cared.
We are mostly conditioned in life to push away uncomfortable feelings when allowing them is healthier. But allowing them can be a scary task without the use of self compassion. When you are experiencing painful or confusing emotions, remind yourself that these are indeed normal responses to what you are going through but BE KIND TO YOURSELF in the process. Compassion is largely the ’stuff’ that heals and self-compassion is no exception.
Think how you would be there for a good friend if he or she was going through the same thing. Be your own best friend in the same way. I agree that finding someone to talk to would be ideal. But also, in those moments alone, let yourself feel what you feel and dig down for a kindness that says, “I’m right here.”
Comment by Wendy White, LCSW — December 14, 2009 @ 8:02 pm